The Fruit of Godly Parenting
Parenting Godly Children, class by Roger and Kama Parlour, 5/12/2012/2012
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Parenting Godly Teens, class by Mike and Brittany Underhill, 5/12/2012/2012
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Parenting Godly Children
Much can be learned from the life of Eli and his sons (1 Samuel 2) on how not to raise your children.
How to Parent Teens – Outline
No patent is perfect…that’s what helps draw us to God…because HE is perfect.
Proverbs 22:6…train a child and when older he won’t turn from it!
First there is a training involved. Chenoch is translation….it’s similar to spoon feeding them in way to go. Spoon feed them the bible in what’s right and correct. Encourage them to read bibles every Morning. When a teenager knows the truth…it will train them in what to do later.
Sometimes kids want bible and sometimes they don’t…they may hate it. Training them in “the way.”. Giving them “the way ” is the bigger picture.
Help your kids, in faith, what they can be and do sometime. Have faith that our kids are going to make it to heaven!!
Training in western culture is different than eastern culture. Don’t just read the Bible…disciple them and walk with them and set the example for them! Setting the example is the most crucial training tool! Train them by giving up everything and sacrificing where God wants us to go and how we seek kingdom first and children see this and know “the way” to go.
Don’t worry about making sacrifices for the kingdom and worrying how it will affect your children…their hope is to have parents that seek the kingdom first!! What’s planted in our children will help them when they are older!
Matthew 28:19…teach them to obey everything! The parents are responsible for problem with kids and are also the solution for the kids!
We are impressing on our kids 7 days a week! We need to realize that what our kids see as an example is branded into their memory of what disciples do…great examples or hypocrites.
Be passionate to do the right thing! Do what’s right and everyone’s heart will follow!
Sacrifice brings the family together. You are your kids’ hero. Set the bar high for them in your example and they will aspire to be like you!
Proverbs 22:15 Rod of discipline…
Folly is bound up in heart of a child. This is normal. Discipling is key (discipline). Openness is important. Allow kids to know that they can talk about what they feel.
The children of disciples in church…there is a lot that can be going on. They need to be treated like adults and speak to them with respect in order to build them up and encourage them to make the right decisions. Show your children that you respect them and show them grace! Show them that you trust them and even make their own decisions. Get advice from your kids and show your children that you respect them. Submit your marriage to your children.
Understanding the cross can be difficult for children in the church who hear communion every single week. They know the truth. They have heard this their whole life. The key is that they know the truth but they don’t have the faith they need in order to be a baptized disciple. They don’t see the big picture of faith and Jesus work. Faith is internal…miracles are external. Children see the miracles but won’t realize the root and source of it is faith. They need to develop their own faith. They have a lot of knowledge but no faith at all (like a remnant disciple). Teach and show them what faith really is. Try to look at as many angles as possible to teach them the cross….how it’s all about faith. Children will remain immature and unfaithful until we can teach them the root ofthe cross. Every day try to help them understand and see the cross.
Love is the biggest thing for teenagers. Always show love no matter how hard it gets and whatever decision they make! Love opens the doors to encourage your children to want to stay connected even with the church when they want to walk away.
Every person in church plays a vital role in our children’s lives! It takes a whole church to raise a child…but the hard work still comes back to parenting. We need to invest the hard work necessary!
Proverbs 13:20
If we want our children to grow in areas, we can forge relationships with people in church to help with these areas. “He who walks with wise grows wise.”. Unity in marriage is important in teaching your children to respect your marriage.
Choose specifically who we want our children to be friends with. Encourage who they should spend time with. Replace every bad thing with a godly quality. Dislike their friends…replace with great friends!
There is a lot of behind the scenes work to establish and forge these relationships for our children! Teach the disciples who are working with your children what they should be talking about and what areas you would like them to influence in your children.
Decide who are going to be working with your children…set them up for success!
Don’t force your children to become a disciple…just place them in relationships with godly people to influence them.
These disciples with your children
will become a part of your family. Incorporate them in your family times.
Around the sophomore year is the time when it can be the most challenging with children involved in sin.
The work doesn’t stop at baptism. Once our children are saved, it will be equally as much work after that point to keep them strong as disciples.
Mindset of parent with teenagers…it’s important to see that God has put the child in your life for a reason. Realize that God has put our children with a family of disciples! But also realize that these children growing up in the church can be the most hard-hearted to work with. Requires a lot of patience and love to work with them! They aren’t angels! God put them where they are because it my take a lifetime around the church for their hearts to soften!